Middle Child Syndrome!

Now I don’t know if this is a real thing, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. But I do know that my son has it if it is.

Perhaps it’s because he’s the only boy, or he’s just got stuff going on in his little mind he finds it hard expressing. But things are quite challenging to say the least.

Back in June when my health visitor came to do Eva’s 10 month check; I decided to talk to her again about William and his behaviour. We had this conversation before and she had a nursery nurse come round, which didn’t help. They gave me advice on things I had already tried or things I knew wouldn’t work! So again I told her things hadn’t changed, and infact had gotten worse.

After telling her exactly what he is like and that I thought there was something wrong, she agreed he was showing signs of AUTISM!

Now to some that’s a scary word, but autism is such a huge spectrum it’s not what we think it is anymore. Alot of people when they hear the word Autistic think of children who can’t communicate etc, this isn’t the case anymore. And for William it’s the social side. He handles any emotion with aggression and violence, he is repetitive, has the some routine, fussy with foods and will only eat bland beige food, plays with the same toys, does the same thing with the toys.. And there are so many other little things I’ve noticed, but these are just to name a few.

So things have been tough with his behaviour, the fact that the health visitor also thinks he can’t help himself. He isn’t a malicious kid, but you can see he just doesn’t know any other way. For a long time I’ve always believed people don’t want to be around us because of him, maybe that’s why we are never included in people’s plans. Or everyone is always ‘busy. Maybe that is the case and that’s something I have to learn to deal with.

I avoid places alot especially when I know their busy, for example soft play. I can’t take my eyes off him, as soon as I hear a child crying my heart beats faster; I automatically think ‘what’s William done’ and half the time it isn’t even William.

But that’s what it does to you, it puts you on edge constantly and you just worry 24/7.

William recently started reception in September, I knew that would be a big challenge both for me and him. Full days all week, no napping, 30 children and one teacher. We had a few meetings with his pre school before he started, and with the sen department from his new school. Trying to put things in place, explaining how William is. He is always that little bit better in a pre school/school setting, and we believe because it’s different people, and its always structured with routine.

Not that he doesn’t have a routine at home, but school is always planned. They always know what they are doing..

So he has settled in fairly well, he has had a few small accidents, the teacher said there’s been a few small incidents, but nothing major to worry me about. She has noticed William is a little more sensitive than alot of the children, he gets upset over things most of them wouldn’t. And that makes sense, as much as people may think of William as this aggressive boisterous boy. He is a sensitive, caring and delicate little chap.

We had our first autism assessment this week, to get the ball rolling.. the peaditrician agreed William was showing signs of AUTISM socially. So it’s a case of taking things to the next step.. I only want the best for my boy, I want him to get the help he deserves. The support we both need and deserve to keep this family happy! Not that we aren’t happy, but when William is having his moment (which is more often than none) the girls don’t want to be around him.

If anybody else is going through similar, please know you aren’t alone. There is help out there, reach out! We know our children better than anybody!!

It feels so good getting all this off my chest, writing it down in what I would call my little diary. We don’t need to struggle in silence.

Author: Sian’sways

Hello, my name is Sian. I started this blog in 2017 after the death of our baby Betsy. I am the sort of person that finds writing things down and expressing myself helpful. But I want to express myself in so many different ways and talk about so many things including; Mental Health, Baby Loss, Fashion, Motherhood, Hauls, DIY, Beauty, Reviews and so many other things

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